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3 Good Things: the why

Sometime early in the pandemic, my husband heard a story on NPR about the power of gratitude. I suspect it was an article about J. Bryan Sexton’s research on 3 Good Things as a tool to combat burnout among medical providers, but the action applies to people in all walks of life. Things felt pretty grim for us during the endless month of April, 2020, and sharing 3 good things was worth a try.  Every night at dinner, we went around the table ticking off three good things from that day.  The items could be big or small, and often swung wildly between the extremes at a single dinner.

  • Sophie texted me. Her mom took her to the ER and she’s safe.
  • The grocery store had yeast again.
  • I saw a hawk on the lamppost when I was walking.

At first, three seemed like too many.  Could I share one good thing and two bad things? No, we stuck to the meal plan: the momentous and the mundane, all jumbled up and passed around the table like salad. The more nights we did it, the easier it was. After a month, my husband stopped prompting us, like a parent giving up on requiring everyone to eat their green beans, and one of the kids began, “So my three good things…”

Over time, I found myself noticing things during the day and adding them to my mental list, like a forager tucking a few morels in her pocket during a walk in the woods. Now that we can have the occasional dinner guest again, we invite them to share their three good things. Sometimes one of us sneaks in a fourth good thing when someone else has their mouth full. When one of the kids moved into the dorm to begin (virtual) college classes, they started sharing three good things on the family group text.

Twenty-one months later, I am still diagnosing people with acute Covid-19, as well as Long Covid they’ve been dealing with for more than a year. We are still wearing masks and facing shortages of rapid tests, hospital beds, and odd grocery staples. We need to notice three good things every day, now more than ever.

I’m going to use this space to share my three good things, which more often than not includes the books I’m reading. I hope you’ll share too in the comments. Here’s a link to J. Bryan Sexton’s explanation of 3 Good Things. (There’s even an app if you’re an app-y kind of person.)

 What were three good things in your day?


18 thoughts on “3 Good Things: the why

  1. I often store up your emails. Another way of saying I don’t always read these posts when they arrive. It could be weeks. However, I just realized that I read this the day you wrote it (this is a good thing, but doesn’t count toward my good things).

    1) on this Jan 14, apparently our 94th week of experiencing the pandemic together-ish, I have many more than 3 good things
    2) I had energy to reflect on 2021, and think about what I want to bring with me into 2022 (again, more than 3 good things. So grateful).
    3) dinner with a dear friend in an Aurora restaurant tonight and somehow my meal was $13. I tipped more than 20%.

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  2. I get to take a Simeon Trust Fellowship workshop in a few weeks on teaching Titus. If I can’t go, I’ve still been studying Titus. I had the most kind, charming, respectful e-mails with the Women’s Ministry coordinator from the host church about gluten free food, I may not even have to pack my own lunches and dinners.

    My son Ben told me about Apollonian Gaskets and I think that will be the perfect application for the lacy knitted circles I developed and dropped a few years ago. I even bought an Invercive Geometry text book (it is over my head, but still exciting.) Soddy Circles and Steiner Chains are so pretty, there will be a lot of shawl applications from this search term.

    Kari has been birdwatching in our side yard. A chickadee perched on her knee, but she was so startled that the the flock flew off.

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